Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Learning to Say No

I have the hardest of times to say no.
I lie (uuuh shame on me!).
I make excuses.
I over-explain myself.
I put on my noncommitted face and keep quiet.
But actually just say no? Just saying, thank you, but no thank you?
Uh, so difficult!

Time to learn, I decided a couple of months ago. I want to live an authentic life, and saying no, simply, gently, with no lies, no excuses and no explaining more than necessary, is an important part thereof.

Well, easy to say. Not so easy to do for me. Especially the part of "how much do I explain"? Do I really just say thank you, but no thank you? Or do I at least add some reasons for my no? (still unsure about it - I'm always afraid of being perceived as rude ... so stupid, I know, but hey, can't change overnight, right?).

In the meantime, I found out that saying no is easier on guys. I was telling a male friend of mine about one occasion where I wanted to say no, but then thought it'd be rude of me and I kind of said "maybe, we'll see" instead of "no". I didn't find the courage to simply say no. **Sigh** (and now I have a messy situation in my hands - **deep-drawn sigh**)
You know what my (male) friend had to say to all that?
He just rolled his eyes and went: Simonetta, just tell them no. What's so difficult about it?

Yeah right, what's so difficult about it?



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